When talking to someone that you want to help, NEVER say the following things.

• What a big jerk! What a bitch!
• At least they care enough to get jealous.
• That happened a long time ago. Get over it.
• You should have known not to go to his/her house.
• You do have a smart mouth.
• She/he just wants you back.
• You should not have been drinking/using drugs.
• You’re lucky to have somebody, even if they are not perfect.
• You should just break up. I told you this before.
• Don’t talk back to them.
• She/he’s really good looking (or a good parent or has a good job), though.
• If you don’t do something, you’re as bad as them.
• It’s not like they punched you or anything.
• I think it’s kind of romantic. Give them another chance. They said they were sorry.
• They love you so much. I wish somebody loved me like that.
• Stop making them mad. Don’t talk to other people if they are around.
• They wouldn’t get jealous if they didn’t care so much.
• I’m not sure it’s that dangerous.
• Is it really that bad?
• She/he just loves you too much.
• Everybody argues.
• You must be overreacting.
• You should not have been wearing those clothes.
• If you don’t leave, it is your fault.
• You should follow my advice.
• I know what's best for you.