When you're concerned about a coworker.

Signs of Abuse:

  • Pattern of receiving upsetting phone calls
  • Missed work
  • Noticeable change in productivity
  • Withdrawn, trouble concentrating
  • Unexplained bruises
  • You sense fear
  • You are aware of a lot of arguments
  • Depression, eating disorders, panic attacks, anxiety, multiple health issues
  • Unexplained sadness, crying, guilt, shame
  • Difficulty with holidays, anniversaries
  • No access to money/car
  • She/he has to ask permission to go places
  • Afraid of leaving children with others

What to Say

  • I am concerned about you.
  • I have noticed that you are upset after receiving a phone call. Can I help you?
  • Would you like me to help by screening your calls or your visitors?
  • Can I help you research the company’s policies about taking time off?
  • Can I help connect you with our employee assistance program or human resources department?
  • Do you want me to have security walk you to your car?
  • It sounds scary.
  • I know where to find help.
  • How can I be helpful to you right now?
  • I’d like to be supportive. Can we talk about this again?

Always speak to the person you are concerned about privately.

Never speak to anyone else without their permission.

Call your local program to practice what to say and when to say it.

Decide to be a consistent support person, even when they don’t do what you want them to do.

Where to go for more help.